When Fear Becomes A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Remember how I really wanted to play roller derby?

I gave up.

It all seemed too hard. Too much work. Not enough sleep. Toomany responsibilities. Not enough support (which is actually probably all in my head). Fear. Intimidation. Self-doubt. Did I mention fear?

What am I afraid of, exactly? I don’t even know. Not being able to keep up. Injury. Failure. When Fear Becomes a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy Elaine Griffin

Failure. What is failure when it comes to roller derby? When it comes to doing something for myself? Failure is giving up, which I have done.

In not facing my fears, in not rolling on, one of my biggest fears has come true. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy. And I don’t even know where to go from here.

What I would love is a buddy to skate with. Just skate. No track. No freshmeat fears. Just fun. Because I want the girl in the picture back. Strong. Confident. Happy. Excited! I’ll even take the dorky, because let’s face it, I’m dorky.

Have you ever let fear get the best of you?

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Elaine GriffinElaine Griffin (a.k.a. Laine) is a freelance WordPress designer, content creator, and speaker. She brings her background as a sociologist, advocate, and educator, to her work and her writing, which has been featured on BlogHer and The SITS Girls. On The Laine List she spills her guts about life, motherhood, and balancing work and family. She also sprinkles in some fun recipe and cocktail posts. On Elaine Griffin Designs, she writes easy to follow tutorials about WordPress, social media, SEO, and blogging.
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  1. I think you’re still the grrrl in the photo- with a lot going on! I missed our Fresh Meat tryout today- I have the skates and the gear- a last minute kids’ TaeKwonDo match stomped right on it. haha! That, and we’re moving. So, it looks like I can’t try-out like I planned to, either! Bah-
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    • Elaine Griffin says:

      Tricia, I hope you can find a team to try out with when you move! Get on those skates girl! :)

  2. All the time!!!!
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  3. I think it’s great that you gave it a try. If you discovered that it’s not for you, at least you were open to pursuing something and setting your sights high. Good for you, and I hope you find joy in skating again.
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  4. I was afraid of heights. Then I went on a sky dive. What an amazing experience.
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