I am My Own Dream Catcher

Dreamcatcher Image, by Christina StumphToday I took a risk and it scared the crap out of me.

For the most part, I don’t consider myself much of a risk taker. I’m a methodical planner. I hope for the best, but  prepare for the worst. But the reality is we can be as prepared as possible, and it doesn’t mean a thing. ANYTHING can happen. There are no guarantees. There is no 100%.

I used to let fear of rejection rule my destiny. I was caught in a paralyzing cycle of wanting, dreaming, and preparing, followed by never taking action, and then always wondering “what if.” It’s depressing, and nothing ever happens.

And then I worked my ass off (and I still am) to learn an art and start and grow a business. And then my fear of rejection turned into a fear of rejection with a side of emotional investment. Being rejected when it’s tied to whether or not you can put food on the table is no joke. Add being rejected after you feel like you have built somewhat of a personal relationship with people, and it’s enough to make you want to go fetal.

Now I have learned, albeit the hard way, to have a thick skin. As I said to one of my friends lately, for every 100 people you please, one will never be pleased. Not everyone is meant to get along or see eye to eye. That’s just life, babe, so get out there and chase your dreams! MAKE it happen!

Which is exactly why I took a risk today.

Someone whom I, and many people who will read this, admire greatly posted on Facebook that she is looking for freelance designers. At first I was giddy with excitement. It could be me! And so I started to respond. And the fear took over. What if she thinks my work sucks? I deleted my comment. And then I re-wrote it. And deleted it. And then I thought, what is the worst that could happen? She’ll say “no thank you.” And I’ll survive, knowing that I took a risk. I put myself out there, and that is something to be proud of.

And I’ll never have to worry about “what if.”

So, with shaky hands and a hopeful heart, I responded.

Because I am my own dream catcher.

How would your life be different if you had, or had NOT taken a risk?

About Laine

Elaine GriffinElaine Griffin (a.k.a. Laine) is a freelance WordPress designer, content creator, and speaker. She brings her background as a sociologist, advocate, and educator, to her work and her writing, which has been featured on BlogHer and The SITS Girls. On The Laine List she spills her guts about life, motherhood, and balancing work and family. She also sprinkles in some fun recipe and cocktail posts. On Elaine Griffin Designs, she writes easy to follow tutorials about WordPress, social media, SEO, and blogging.
Working from her home office in Finger Lakes Region of NY, Elaine, a wine lover, also enjoys the beauty of living in wine country!

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  1. Virginia Kahler-Anderson, aka HomeRearedChef says

    I can’t help but wonder if my life would have been different if I’d taken a position that I wanted so badly but turned it down out of fear. I was afraid to fail. I live with that reget to this day. It was a position I wanted so much, everything happened so fast, and I walked away from it. Today, when I remember, I still cry about it. Sigh!

    I am so VERY proud of you, Laine. I am so glad that you are going for it. YOU GO GIRL!! :)

    Big virtual hugs, Amiga,

    • Laine says

      Oh, Virginia, I’m so sorry you are still feeling regret about that. I know what it’s like to feel like things are going faster than is possible to keep up.
      But YOU are also doing huge and wonderful things! I’m proud of you for seizing your opportunities and not giving up! :)

      • Elaine Plummer says

        Here here Laine. I believe that Virginia is exactly where she needs to be at this time. She is helping family and friends all of the time. I also believe that something will come along and help Virginia have the dreams she didn’t even know she should have because they are so wonderful.

        Now about you, Laine: I have seen your art and am proud, relieved and excited over the possibilities that you are bringing to my family for our new blog site. You are a wonderful artist and have already been so helpful. Looking forward to moving ahead with you as our artist and guide. THANK YOU and congratulations for following your dream.

        • Laine says

          Thank you Elaine! I’m excited to help your family with this important project. And hopefully help many others!
          And I agree about Virginia. She is a beautiful person destined for amazing things!!

  2. says

    You totally should be going for everything! There is nothing to “lose” when you remember that we all have a learning curve and we all can’t master everything. People need to be able to reach out for help…and offer.

    • Laine says

      “There is nothing to “lose” when you remember that we all have a learning curve and we all can’t master everything.”
      Now THAT’S one to remember! :)

  3. says

    I’m so proud of you, my friend! {hugs & high fives}.

    Your question to your readers, though…is very loaded. I’m not sure how to answer it. I’m holding back from many things and I’m not entirely sure why. I’ve taken risks in the past, not worrying if I succeeded or failed. I’ve always had a fear of rejection, mostly because when I’ve put myself out there I HAVE been rejected…so it leaves a scar. I stopped doing it. I may not always be that way and I am trying to work my way out of it. But still…it’s there.

    I want to know more! Email me! Text me! Details! I’m giddy (for you)!
    Melissa (Alienbody) recently posted..Open Letter to MyselfMy Profile

    • Laine says

      I know you feel that way, Melissa, but you have a lot cooking in there. I know that when you are ready to take the leap you WILL! And it will be aweseomballz. :) <3
      And I’ll be there cheering you on all the way!

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